Last week I mentioned in my post, Controlling the Uncontrollables, about being berated in front of the home crowd while playing for the Redeemer men’s soccer team. This happened in the first game of the season, my first game in the OCAA, from one of the captains on the team. At the time, I did not know him well, I had only met him a few weeks prior. Now, I am honoured to call him a close friend! The lessons that come from that yelling are good ones. And I will talk about it below.
Just got to this. Crazy how little I listen to the feedback sometimes, like you said there is a reason those top performers take a look at the replay. My takeaway is not to hide from the feedback life gives you!
Totally agree! Those athletes are looking for feedback before they take another shift. . I do things over and over without reflecting on it or ever asking someone else for feedback.
Your points are really important. We have seen plenty of research (and practical experience) that we need feedback on both sides of the coin. What is interesting is our own dictionaries define feedback as a method for improvement, citing pointing out what was done incorrectly. However, we are naturally prone to focus on the negative, so it's easy to lose perspective which is why I really liked that you pointed out both. The other aspect of this that can help individuals is having open conversations on how they want to be talked to during competition. That can help the "moments" from being perceived negatively. Great post!
Thank you. I am fascinated by our ability to always default to the negative when it comes to feedback or life experiences. When giving feedback to others, it is usually positive yet when reflecting on how we are doing we usually see the negative.
Just got to this. Crazy how little I listen to the feedback sometimes, like you said there is a reason those top performers take a look at the replay. My takeaway is not to hide from the feedback life gives you!
Totally agree! Those athletes are looking for feedback before they take another shift. . I do things over and over without reflecting on it or ever asking someone else for feedback.
Your points are really important. We have seen plenty of research (and practical experience) that we need feedback on both sides of the coin. What is interesting is our own dictionaries define feedback as a method for improvement, citing pointing out what was done incorrectly. However, we are naturally prone to focus on the negative, so it's easy to lose perspective which is why I really liked that you pointed out both. The other aspect of this that can help individuals is having open conversations on how they want to be talked to during competition. That can help the "moments" from being perceived negatively. Great post!
Thank you. I am fascinated by our ability to always default to the negative when it comes to feedback or life experiences. When giving feedback to others, it is usually positive yet when reflecting on how we are doing we usually see the negative.